Dreaming
My husband and I are dreamers. We constantly talk about our ideas and the things that we would love to accomplish. I talk about designing a dream house for all of our future (and current) babies, he talks about going to medical school, becoming a family doctor and eventually owning property. We have considered opening a small business, we dream of how many babies we would like to have and what to name them, we dream of what our little ones will accomplish and where we will all travel to.
I loved the following by president and sister Hinckley:
Church magazines: Sister Hinckley, you have said that your husband “always let me do my own thing. He never insisted that I do anything his way, or any way, for that matter. From the very beginning he gave me space and let me fly.” How has he done that?
Sister Hinckley: He never tells me what to do. He just lets me go. He has made me feel like a real person. He has encouraged me to do whatever makes me happy. He doesn’t try to rule or dominate me.
Church magazines: President, you have said: “Some husbands regard it as their prerogative to compel their wives to fit their standards of what they think to be the ideal. It never works.” How have you avoided doing this with Sister Hinckley?
President Hinckley: I’ve tried to recognize my wife’s individuality, her personality, her desires, her background, her ambitions. Let her fly. Yes, let her fly! Let her develop her own talents. Let her do things her way. Get out of her way, and marvel at what she does…If there is anything that concerns me, it is that some men try to run their wife’s life and tell her everything she ought to do. It will not work. There will not be happiness in the lives of the children nor of the parents
where the man tries to run everything and control his wife. They are partners. They are companions in this great venture that we call marriage and family life (Marjorie Pay and
Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, October 2003, pp. 22, 27).
Sister Hinckley: He never tells me what to do. He just lets me go. He has made me feel like a real person. He has encouraged me to do whatever makes me happy. He doesn’t try to rule or dominate me.
Church magazines: President, you have said: “Some husbands regard it as their prerogative to compel their wives to fit their standards of what they think to be the ideal. It never works.” How have you avoided doing this with Sister Hinckley?
President Hinckley: I’ve tried to recognize my wife’s individuality, her personality, her desires, her background, her ambitions. Let her fly. Yes, let her fly! Let her develop her own talents. Let her do things her way. Get out of her way, and marvel at what she does…If there is anything that concerns me, it is that some men try to run their wife’s life and tell her everything she ought to do. It will not work. There will not be happiness in the lives of the children nor of the parents
where the man tries to run everything and control his wife. They are partners. They are companions in this great venture that we call marriage and family life (Marjorie Pay and
Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, October 2003, pp. 22, 27).
If my husband and I truly want to fulfill our dreams it is crucial for us to let each other "fly!"There is no way we can accomplish our goals and dreams if we try to push our own ideas onto eachother.
I have learned in marriage that it is best for my husband and I to work together as a team. We seem to both bring ideas to the table and then we are able to put them together and have a really great outcome!
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